How I Embraced That I am Enough, Just The way I am!
If you have been following me then you probably know how much I stressed upon self-care, self-love and also by now you know I am taking my perfectionism to learnings. I remember a few months back I had tendencies towards perfectionism, however, I didn't know how deep it went, until recently after starting my YouTube channel.
I can now realize how I have had distorted thinking and unresolved emotion and shame link to failure, perfectionism, and approval from different experiences growing up. Ex: for me, underneath perfectionism, has been a deep vulnerability around not being good enough or worthy. I have practiced journaling and You can also check here HOW JOURNALING TRANSFORMED MY LIFE.
As long as I can remember, I have been constantly wanting to be better or have more. I believe that I had to earn the right to exist and be myself, I just couldn't be myself. Many areas of constant striving in my life included being prettier, being thinner, wanting to do everything right, having more degrees, more time, or money.
As I continued to learn to embrace imperfection, I am slowly starting to see how I am enough and don’t need the approval of anyone or don’t have to earn the right to exist anymore. I can do so many things together, I am alive leading a beautiful life, enjoying my passion and that itself is proof that “I AM ENOUGH AND WORTHY”.
HOW AM I PRACTISING ENOUGHNESS?
Honestly, This was not easy for me but the result out of it is satisfying enough, also I know it will get easier over time. Currently, I am practicing my enoughness includes:
- ACKNOWLEDGING ME:
What helped the most is acknowledging and identifying me, in other terms self-acceptance. Finding out where I am good at and what I can do my best made me know that I am more worthy of love. More than Anything I believe that cultivating self-acceptance requires that we develop more self-compassion. Only when we can better understand and forgive ourselves for things that earlier we assumed must be all our mistakes can we secure the relationship to self that till now has eluded us.
2 I HAVE STOPPED COMPARING MYSELF WITH OTHERS:
I have realized that often I compare other's strengths to my weaknesses and that’s where I know this is gonna demotivate me in any situation. I guess most of us do this knowingly or unknowingly. I think it’s natural to compare ourselves to others, But also realize it often makes us unhappy even if we have enough and should be happy with what we have. What I tried instead is I tried to be more aware when I start comparing and then I used a trick, stopping my self there and telling my self STOP THAT. And started thinking about all the strengths I have, things I love, People who love me, and all blessings that life has given me. Making this a regular practice made me leading a good and happier life than earlier.
3 POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS:
One of the questions I asked myself is how I keep my spirit high. And the truth is- I am a human and it's not possible to be happy all the time. But nourishing my mind is as important to me as nourishing my body. It’s an essential practice for self-love. This way of wholesome living is essential to my healing journey.But truth is, we all face hate and negativity problems in our lives and we’re not immune to these. But Positive affirmations can help retrain your brain to look at things differently. They’re little love balls filled with truths that serve as a reminder of who we are and what we’re meant to be. Repeatedly reminding myself that I AM ENOUGH made me recognize the whole of Me in a new way.
I hope that by sharing bit of my journey of practicing enoughness, anyone of you can see your worth and enoughness as well.
“NO AMOUNT OF GUILT CAN SOLVE THE PAST AND NO AMOUNT OF ANXIETY CAN CHANGE THE FUTURE. SO LOVE YOURSELF ENOUGH TO FORGIVE YOURSELF” ~ unknown
Do let me know in the comment below how you practicing enoughness in your life!